The country is grappling with rising infertility rates and stagnant growth in condom usage. Is there a way out?
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Moradabad, Uttar Pradesh
“I can’t tell you how excited I am,” beams soon-to-be-dad Deepak Kumar. A sales executive with an FMCG company in Delhi, Kumar reached his hometown last week, a few days ahead of the birth of his child. “My boss denied me paternity leave,” he says with a giggle. The snub, though, didn’t dampen his enthusiasm as he went on a shopping spree to welcome his baby: Diapers, towels, powder, lotion... “This will be my fourth child,” he proudly says on a WhatsApp video call from Moradabad, some 191 km from Delhi. “I know what all I need to buy,” he says smiling. His three kids—two boys, aged 3 and 5, and a nine-year-old girl—and parents are equally excited to have a new addition in the family.
‘But why so many kids,’ asks this reporter apologetically. “What’s your problem? I can take care of them,” Kumar dishes out a no-nonsense reply. The second question, probing about his use of condoms is also met with scorn. “Condom kills the fun of sex. I don’t get pleasure,” he says. “Lekin ye to AIDS se bachne ke liye hota hai na (Is it not used to not get infected with AIDS?),” he asks. “I have sex only with my wife,” he says, adding that his partner has been using emergency contraceptive pills since marriage. “Condom is not a man thing,” asserts Kumar, 29.
Meanwhile in Udaipur in Rajasthan, Anjum Gupta knew her man had a problem. A primary teacher at a government school, Gupta has not been able to conceive since she got married a decade ago. “I was labeled as infertile by my in-laws,” she says, her voice quivering. “Though medically I was okay, the stigma,” the 32-year-old lets on, “disrupted my life.” After much persuasion over the last five years, her husband, a commodity trader, relented to get medically examined. Dr Kshitiz Murdia is not surprised to know about the mental torture the teacher had to go through. “A disproportionate amount of onus is placed on females when a couple is unable to conceive,” says the chief executive officer and co-founder of Indira IVF, India’s largest infertility chain with 94 centres across India. In India, the topic of male infertility is rarely spoken about. “Approximately half of the total cases of infertility can be traced to the male factor,” he adds.